Fear of intimacy in dating
In subsequent days, we emailed back and forth, then switched to phone calls as our conversation deepened.
A week after first making contact, Bob and I met for dinner at a restaurant.
Widowed and divorced women who hear this story often tell me I was “lucky” — an odd thing to say, given the circumstance: At 54, after a happy 24-year marriage, I was widowed.
They may have suffered through a troubled childhood experience that has wounded them or they now have higher priorities such as their career or taking care of a sick parent.
A water engineer named Bob, he had two grown kids and, like me, was recently widowed.
Though his picture was unappealingly stiff and his mention (twice) of wanting to find a “soul mate” made me wince (twice), several lines in his profile caught my attention.
Bonding with your partner is a critical part of a loving, lasting relationship.
It’s also one of the best parts of loving another person — sharing a close bond makes us feel safe, secure, and wanted.